How it works
The ten dimensions of a date
A look at the rubric LoveJoy uses to help you reflect after a date — and why ten dimensions, not five stars.
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Beyond the star rating
A five-star rating flattens a person. It says nothing about what was good or what was missing — and so it teaches you nothing.
LoveJoy uses ten dimensions instead. They are:
- Chemistry
- Conversation
- Kindness
- Curiosity
- Humor
- Honesty
- Presence
- Effort
- Boundaries
- Aftermath
Why ten
Ten is enough to be specific, few enough to remember. Each one maps to a question worth asking yourself: did I feel met?, did they listen?, did I lie to be liked?
How to use it
Don't treat it as a scorecard. Treat it as a mirror — the kind of quiet feedback you usually only get years later, in therapy.
